SOUL TO SOUL

The view from high above Hollywood

According to OMG.Yahoo.com/news Johnny Depp and girlfriend of 14 years, Vanessa Paradis, have broken up. It was first reported in a magazine back in January that the couple was “living separate lives”. Now it’s June, and they are no longer denying it. When asked why he never made it official with Paradis, Depp said, ”I never found myself needing that piece of paper. Marriage is really from soul to soul, heart to heart. You don’t need somebody to say, okay you’re married… but some people do, so that’s cool”. Has anyone thought to ask Vanessa Paradis for her take on it?

Here we are in the year 2012 and everyone knows plenty of people married and then divorced. And of course there are those who stay together even when they should split. Change can be both exciting and scary.

Here may be a new model for relationships as described in the book by Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul.

“An archetype is a collective human idea. The archetype of marriage was designed to assist physical survival. When two people marry, they participate in an energy dynamic in which they merge their lives in order to help each other survive physically. When you speak of a "marriage" you invoke a particular consciousness, a particular energy. When two people marry, they become "husband" and "wife". Husband means the master of a house, the head of a household, a manager. From wikipedia: ORIGIN late Old English (in the senses ‘male head of a household’ and ‘manager, steward’), from Old Norse húsbóndi ‘master of a house,’ from hús ‘house’ + bóndi ‘occupier and tiller of the soil.’ The original sense of the verb was ‘till, cultivate.’ "Wife" means a woman who is joined to a man in marriage, a hostess of a household. Sometimes it means a woman of humble rank. The relationship between a husband and a wife is not equal. The archetype of marriage is no longer functional. It is being replaced with a new archetype that is designed to assist spiritual growth. This is the archetype of spiritual, or sacred, partnership. The underlying premise of a spiritual partnership is a sacred commitment between the partners to assist each other's spiritual growth. Spiritual partners recognize their equality. Spiritual partners are able to distinguish personality from soul, and therefore, they are able to discuss the dynamics between them, their interactions, on a less emotionally bound ground than husband and wives. That ground does not exist within the consciousness of marriage. It exists only within the consciousness of spiritual partnership because spiritual partners are able to see clearly that there is indeed a deeper reason why they are together, and that that reason has a great deal to do with the evolution of their souls. The conscious evolution of the soul is not part of the structural dynamic of marriage. It does not exist within that evolution because when the evolutionary archetype of marriage was created for our species, the dynamic of conscious spiritual growth was far too mature a concept to be included. What makes a spiritual, or sacred, partnership is that the souls within the partnership understand that they are together in a committed relationship, but the commitment is not to physical security. It is rather to be with each other's physical lives as they reflect spiritual consciousness. The bond between spiritual partners exists as real as it does in marriage, but for significantly different reasons. Spiritual partners are not together in order to quell each other's financial fears or because they can produce a house in the suburbs and that entire conceptual framework. The commitment of spiritual partners is to each other's spiritual growth, recognizing that that is what each of them is doing on Earth, and that everything serves that. Spiritual partners bond with an understanding that they are together because it is appropriate for their souls to grow together. They recognize that their growth may take them to the end of their days in this incarnation and beyond, or it may take them to six months.  They cannot say that they will be together forever. The duration of their partnership is determined by how long it is appropriate for their evolution to be together. All of the vows that a human being can take cannot prevent the spiritual path from exploding through and breaking those vows if the spirit must move on. It is appropriate for spiritual partners to remain together only as long as they grow together. The archetype of spiritual partnership is new to the human experience.”

You may or may not agree with Gary Zukav’s ideas but at least it starts the conversation. How do we evolve from here and where do we want to go in our relationships. Our spiritual partners can come from both genders. A friend will agree with you to make you feel good but a partner will tell you to have a look at something you may have not been willing to look at or even realized beforehand. I love my friends but I love my spiritual partners even more. They help me to grow. And just as being a good friend to ourselves is important, being a good spiritual partner to ourselves is even better, in my opinion. As the Summer Solstice (Latin for SUN STANDS STILL) is upon us, it is a good time to release any fear or sadness or negativity that is inside us. It is a wonderful time to list what we would like to bring into our life in a positive way. Make a list of all the things you want to manifest, and then light a couple of candles, and read the list as affirmations.

 Let 2012 be the year of POWERFUL AFFIRMATIONS. Here is one I like from Wayne Dyer: I am whole and perfect as I was created. What are your  favorite affirmations?