How Well Do You know Yourself? What are your triggers?

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We are all Spiritual beings having a human experience while we are alive. Part of that human experience is becoming aware of our EGO state of mind. When we respond to others from that Ego mind, instead of from Spirit consciousness, we can gain insight into what our triggers are if we pay attention. It's the triggers that let us know what we need to heal within ourselves for personal growth.

One of the things I have learned recently is that we all process information differently. Some process outside stimuli predominantly through their emotions while others through intellectual analysis. I admit I fall into the latter. My left brain takes over wanting to analyze until I exhaust myself. I am working on that.

So I ask the question, "How well do you know yourself and what are your triggers?"

To better explore this topic I have included an example of an individual I came in contact with recently.

At a weekend seminar on Success & Achievement, I recently met a guy named George (not his real name) when we were asked to get in a group to do an exercise. After the exercise we had an opportunity to chat and I mentioned I have a blog. He asked for the URL and brought it up on his phone. At some point he read a bit and I asked him what he thought. He said I needed a stronger hook at the beginning because it took him several sentences before he knew what I was getting at. I considered that it's best not to read a blog on such a small screen. We exchanged emails. I wrote him a short note thanking him for the suggestions he made to improve my blog.

Hi George:

Just want to touch base and say hi.

How are you doing since your intensive weekend?

I want to thank you again for the suggestions re: my blog.

Letting you know I added a gadget for emails and also a "translate" into

other languages gadget. I know there are more things to do and they will come in time.

Here's a link to my blog when you can read it on a larger screen.

http://spiralhappy.blogspot.com

Again, so nice to meet you and share our dream goals with one

another.

See you at the next one…

Best,

Lynne

Hi Lynne,

It was great meeting you. I have been learning lessons from our

conversation. Particularly I wanted to thank you for showing me how to

gracefully receive criticism, and use it to compliment the person

giving it.

It was artfully and soulfully done and I am internalizing it now as a

skill I can develop for myself.

I will spend some more time reading your blog and share any thoughts

that are forthcoming.

All my best,

George

If I had to guess, I would say George has had an issue in the past regarding criticism, either for himself being criticized or when he's criticized another. What struck me when I read his email was that he chose to call it criticism. Criticism is defined in the dictionary as finding fault with. Instead I felt when I asked George for his opinion, he was letting me know how his experience could have been better for him. He was giving an opinion, that's all. I knew that behind the opinion was a good intention. He was trying to be helpful, not find fault.

Perhaps we all best remember that it is our intention behind our communication that should be our guide.

Upon googling the question “How to deal with our EGOS when it is triggered” I came across this site at Spiritual -Experiences.com and want to share what it said:

“How I personally deal with my ego state is to become friends with it. When I feel something that makes my ego react (an insult for example), I allow that feeling to come to the surface (non suppression). I analyze the triggers that then fire off in my brain (adrenaline, fear, etc.) and then I reprogram it with new emotions (love, laughter, and compassion). I allow the initial ego feelings to pass, and then I bring warmth and gratitude to the situation. I either thank the person for giving me this opportunity to grow, or I send them compassion for showing me that they are the pain in me and I am the pain in them. If they attack me, there is hurt in them, if I react, then there is pain in me. Healing is required of us both.

This is a lifelong endeavor. It starts with acknowledgement, lives through understanding and acceptance and finds resolution in love.”

Gratitude to George for allowing me to use his email to help explore this topic. I encourage anyone who would like to know more about EGO & TRIGGERS to do more research.

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer is a wonderful place to start. “The Untethered Soul begins by walking you through your relationship with your thoughts and emotions, helping you uncover the source and fluctuations of your inner energy. It then delves into what you can do to free yourself from the habitual thoughts, emotions, and energy patterns that limit your consciousness. Finally, with perfect clarity, this book opens the door to a life lived in the freedom of your innermost being.”

Thank you for visiting my blog.